Getting "Unfriended" in Real Life

10 Ways to Get Unfriended in Real Life!

(1) Do all the talking. And always have the last word. Anything your friends would have to say is probably boring and irrelevant anyway. Make sure an overwhelming majority of the discussion is from you.

(2) "Anything you can do, I can do better."  Akin to this one is the "Always be right." mentality. Always "one up" whatever your friends have to say. Did they get a raise? Yours was higher. Did they accomplish a goal? Yours was bigger. Did they reach a milestone in life? You already passed it. And never acknowledge you were wrong.

(3) Expect your friends to always be on the giving side of the relationship. They owe you. They ought to give you money when you're in trouble. Be there for you when you are in a crisis. Don't worry about their lives, just that they exist to lift you up. When they see you coming, they'll know they owe you something!

(4) Make the subject of every conversation you. Is there anything better to talk about? Quote yourself often, it adds spice to your conversation. But it doesn't add much spice to your relationships. Anything that your friends have done, accomplished, or been a part of is probably going to be boring compared to your life & accomplishments.

(5) Give your friends frequent ultimatums. If your friends won't do what you want, the way you want it, then lay out an ultimatum. Always make them aware of the fact that you have drawn a line in the sand. Relationships tend to thrive under this kind of pressure.

(6) Gossip. Some people realize that if you are willing to gossip about others to them, then you are no doubt going to gossip about them to others. The juicier the better... keep spreading the word. A sharp tongue can lose plenty of friends.

(7) Make your friendship based on your happiness. If they drag you down...let them go. Look for someone who will benefit you and your life, not vice versa. The less you invest in your friendships the better when it comes to getting unfriended. Remember, they will understand that you are more important than they are and if not, who needed them anyway?

(8) Be sensitive. Let your friends know when they have offended you (especially over small things). Keep them obligated and always asking for forgiveness. Make sure everyone is walking on egg shells around you.

(9) Don't mind your manners. Be rude. Be obnoxious. Be loud. Be embarrassing. And do it without reservation, just don't be polite. The more inconsiderate you are the more quickly they will plan on getting rid of you as a friend!

(10) Complain about everything. Be a whiner. Criticize. Be the dark cloud that blocks every ray of sunshine. Never be happy, optimistic, enthusiastic, or excited about anything... just complain. Always talk about your problems, your aches & pains, the bad things that have happened to you and the like. It's kind of like congregating at a dumpster.

I am sure there are other ways to get people to "unfriend" you, what would you add?


Also check out the following...

Some Things You Need to Know

Why I Stopped Giving to the Poor.

Ten Books You Should Read

These are general reads for spiritual growth that I would recommend to any Christian serious about growing in Christ.

1. "The Cost of Discipleship" by Dietrich Bonhoeffer
A powerful presentation of God's call to discipleship. Significant especially since Bonhoeffer gave his life and paid the ultimate price.

2. "Mere Christianity" by C. S. Lewis
A powerful apologetic presentation of faith in Jesus from one who was once a cynic himself. He also authored the 'Chronicles of Narnia' series.

3. "Crazy Love" by Francis Chan
The most modern book on my list. Chan challenges the reader to reject complacency and the cheap,  generic religion sometimes labeled Christianity in our culture today.

4. "Perfect Love" by J. A. Woods
A classic explanation of God's work of entire sanctification. Good truth by an anointed author.

5. "Experiencing Revival" by Charles Finney
The famous evangelist plainly encourages and explains some of the factors of revival.

6. "Perfect Love" by Kevin Watson
One of the best contemporary books on the work of Entire Sanctification. This is a must read for every pastor and layperson.

7. "Holiness and Power" by Aaron M Hills
A much dismissed companion to holy living is power and Hills shares some good truth in this area.

8. "Why Revival Tarries" by Leonard Ravenhill
Ravenhill, in his classic demeanor, will not allow you to fill content about your personal state or the state of the church as he seeks to tear down the problem keeping us from revival today.

9. "Praying Clear Through" by William J Harney
A powerful challenge to keep prayer at the forefront of our spiritual lives. Harney delivers an encouraging challenge to 'pray clear through.'

10. "A Plain Account of Christian Perfection" by John Wesley
A must read for those seeking to better understand the Biblical doctrine of Christian perfection. The language can be a little archaic (as it was published in 1766), but there's a reason we keep some stuff around that long!


Honorable Mentions:

1. "My Utmost for His Highest" Oswald Chambers

2. "Streams in the Desert" L.B. Cowman & Jim Reimann


What might you add to this list?

Also check out 10 Books Every Pastor Should Read and Some Sermons to Read.

Ten Books Every Pastor Should Read (and some sermons to read)

Below are a few books I would recommend to pastors as well as some sermons that have been impactful to my personal journey.

First the books...

1. "A New Beginning for Pastors and Congregations" by Kennon L. Callahan
Before you start your next pastoral assignment, read this book. A great book for those starting new ministry assignments, wanting to 're-start', or just looking for some direction on why there is no forward momentum.

2. "Preacher and Prayer" by E. M. Bounds
Powerful challenge to a preaching pastor on the importance, or I should say, the necessity of prayer. An encouraging and challenging read.

3. "Promise of the Father" by Phoebe Palmer
She's been controversial and rejected by many academics (that might be a good thing), but was extremely fruitful in seeing literally hundreds of laity and clergy experience entire sanctification. This too is a must read.

4. "Discipleship in the Home" by Matt Friedeman
If you cannot disciple your own children, then you are going to be at a loss to disciple people in the church. This book provides great first steps toward establishing a Godly home that produces real Christians!

5. "The Sermons of John Wesley" edited by Kenneth Collins & Jason E Vickers
Every pastor should read all of Wesley's sermons. You'll be able to see through all those who claim that their idea or theology is 'Wesleyan' as well as be challenged in your own spiritual life. The English is old, but the Spirit still moves!

6. "Lectures on Revival" by Charles G. Finney
A great evangelist of yesteryears gives instruction on promoting, laying a context for, and seeking revival in your local context. A great read by an anointed evangelist.

7. "Spiritual Disciplines for Ordinary People" by Keith Drury (unless you can get an out of print copy, you'll have to settle for the newer version of the same book titled: "Soul Shaper")
A simple read on some spiritual disciplines that we all need. Pastor or lay people will benefit from this book by Drury.

8. "Of God and Men" by A. W. Tozer
Tozer rejects religious notions that blind us to the faith and reality of the New Testament church. Humanity's relationship to God is of supreme concern!

9. "Abide in Christ" by Andrew Murray
The rush and full schedules of ministry can often make a pastor lose sight of the most important thing- fellowship with Jesus. Murray masterfully calls us to abide with Him again.

10. "Spiritual Leadership" by J. Oswald Sanders
A classic book on leadership from a spiritual and Biblical perspective. Every pastor needs to read this book!


Honorable Mentions:

"Sinning Saints" by Howard Sweeten (Can't find it, but found a digital copy of this book that is by the same author and a similar read)

A few years old now, but the issue is still the same being promoted in so many churches today: sinning Christians. Sweeten attacks the idea that after being born again Christians continue sinning.

"Holiness for Ordinary People" by Keith Drury

Another one by Drury that gives a simple read for understanding Entire Sanctification.

Any books you might include on this list?

Bonus: Some sermons you need to read/listen to...

1. "Ten Shekels and a Shirt" by Paris Reidhead (audio & manuscript of sermon)

Hands down one of the most impactful sermons in my own ministry.

2. "10 Indictments Against the Modern Church in America" by Paul Washer (video of sermon) (manuscript of sermon)

A challenging rebuke to style over substance.

3. "The Cost of Discipleship" by Francis Chan (audio & video of sermon)

Reminiscent of a book by Bonhoeffer titled the same.

4. "The Time is Now" by C. W. Fisher (manuscript of sermon)

A call to action and revival in the church today.

5. "Amen! That's My King" by S. M. Lockridge (audio of sermon)

A rally cry to the Christian today. Maybe a good one to learn some style from too. You definitely need to listen to this one.

6. "Repentance" by Dwight L. Moody (manuscript of sermon)

Moody helps define repentance and distinguishes between true and false repentance.

7. "The New Birth" by John Wesley (manuscript & audio of sermon)

Wesley speaks to what happens when you are born again.

8. "Scriptural Christianity" by John Wesley (manuscript & audio of sermon)

A treatise on the Christian life according to Scripture.

9. "On Sin in Believers" by John Wesley (manuscript & audio of sermon)

Wesley answers the question: is there room or allowance for sin in the life of a true believer?

10. "The Scripture Way of Salvation" by John Wesley (manuscript & audio of sermon)

Pressing on toward entire sanctification. 

Got some sermons you recommend? Comment the link to a manuscript, video, or audio.

Don't miss 10 Books Everyone Should Read.

How to Know God's Will for Your Life

I've been thinking about how someone might be able to know God's Will for their life. Here's what I've got so far...

1. Be in relationship with God. This is the only context by which God's Spirit directs you beyond a move to toward repentance. If you are not in a right relationship with God, then that IS God's will for you at that time (2 Peter 3:9) Nothing else really matters if you are not where you should be spiritually. I am frequently consulted, as a pastor, on what God wants of someone's life and I first refer them to this context. No other decision in life matters if you have not first made a decision to follow Jesus as a disciple!

2. Be sanctified wholly! There are at least two specific areas in Scripture about what God's Will is for our lives. One of them (listed above) is about repentance and beginning our relationship with God. The other one, found in 1 Thessalonians 4:3, is about sanctification. Entire Sanctification "is wrought by the baptism with or infilling of the Holy Spirit, and comprehends in one experience the cleansing of the heart from sin and the abiding, indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit, empowering the believer for life and service. Entire sanctification is provided by the blood of Jesus, is wrought instantaneously by grace through faith, preceded by entire consecration; and to this work and state of grace the Holy Spirit bears witness." (from Article of Faith X of the Church of the Nazarene) This is essential!

3. Throw out a lot of things you might have heard and even come to believe that are not Biblical in nature. For example, there are some who believe that God's will would never involve suffering or hardship or anything difficult like sickness. That simply is not true. It is actually a derivative of the "prosperity Gospel" that is popular among many tele-evangelists. God's Will is not always the easiest thing, the most convenient thing, or even that thing which would appear most beneficial to our material possession, bank account, or even physical health. The truth is, sometimes, God's will is just hard, but it sure is worth it!

4. Eliminate distractions. There are always plenty of voices giving advice and plenty of things to distract (social media, entertainment, and a general sense of being busy). It's hard to learn, but to really hear from God we need to learn to be quiet before him for longer than 30 seconds! Turn your phone off, turn the music off, turn the computer off, turn the television off and just abide with Him. In the stillness of those moments your spiritual ears may pick up on His voice.

5. God's Will never contradicts His written Word. The Bible is authoritative when it comes to God's Will. It is a revelation given to humanity that cannot be re-written, revised, or changed. It's not a buffet, it's the main course. A lot of the options for a choice you have to make are easily eliminated with some knowledge of the Word of God.

6. Never use the "open door" policy. I hear lots of people talk about God's will being the first option to open up. Sometimes you might need to sit tight and be patient. Jumping at the first 'open door' can be a recipe for disaster. Just don't do it.

7. Remember that the Shepherd does speak and his sheep know His voice (John 10:1-5). It might take some patience and some fasting won't hurt, but it will come. Don't panic. Don't make a choice out of fear. Don't rush. Just wait to hear the voice of the Shepherd. He does speak.

8. Evaluate your past record of discerning God's will for your life. What has the fruit of your life been? Has God been glorified in your past decisions? If past choices have the aroma of self-interest, self-promotion, or self-centered tendencies then you might want to renegotiate your discernment. A pattern of wrong choices may lead to some poor discernment that needs to be dealt with.

9. Turn off ungodly council. There are a host of warnings in Proverbs about listening to the advice of the ungodly. Just don't do it. The ungodly don't wear name tags but you will find them walking on the broad path. Use caution in listening to their council as their priorities, values, and goals will be different from those of a Christian. Your source of wisdom can derail your path.

10. Be aware that the authentic believer can not go wrong. You might choose the wrong food item off a menu, the wrong ministry idea, or an outfit that doesn't match, but you won't miss the big thing God is doing in your life. You will not miss Heaven if you are seeking Jesus with all your heart! We simply do not serve a God who tempts us with a 'carrot on a stick.'

There's growing skepticism among some that God still directs His people. That's because, in our "microwave" society discerning God's Will may take more than watch a 5 minute YouTube video or reading a 7 minute blog. It's going to take time with the Savior to learn His desires for you.

What might you add/subtract from my thoughts?

Transformation is Available!- A Testimony

I have the privilege of serving as the pastor of people from all walks of life. It never ceases to amaze when I hear the testimony of those who have been transformed by the love of God in Christ Jesus. Let me share the testimony of Joyce in her own words...

I was raised in a church in Michigan City, IN. When I was eleven years old my brother was killed in a motorcycle accident. He was fourteen years old. His accident was horrifying, and I knew it would change my life, but I never realized how much it had, until I was older.

After my brother’s death, my parents went in total different directions. My dad hated God. My mother consumed herself in the church. Soon my dad started drinking and started abusing my mom verbally and eventually even physically. Then he started abusing me physically and mentally. So by the age of 13 my parents were divorcing. My dad was becoming an alcoholic and didn’t even realize what he was doing. He hardly ever paid child support, which left my mom working two jobs to try and make enough money to support her and I.

Mom and I ended up living in government housing on the lower side of the city, which is where my problems started. My mom was gone a lot and I was forced to grow up quickly, taking care of things at home. I began to see guys, which led to premarital sex by the age of 15.

When I was 17 years old my mom decided to move down to Princeton, IN to help my brother start his restaurant. She decided to leave me with an older sister and her husband. I was a junior in high school and just wanted to finish high school there. That became my goal: stay focused and finish school. I was working and going to school, which became pretty difficult. I worked at night and then went home to do homework. The more tired I became the more my sister and I fought. It was time for me to leave. I moved back in with my father who was now drinking more than ever. I lived there for a month and then I got kicked out. I’m not really sure why, but I have always felt like it was because dad felt like he might hurt me again and so I needed to go.

By this time I had a steady boyfriend and his parents were Christians. They told me maybe their older son and his wife would let me stay with them. I was thinking it would be good to be around Christians. Well it turned out, the son wasn’t a Christian. I did stay with them, and they also lived in government housing, so my lifestyle started getting worse there. I started drinking alcohol and fighting all the time. Gangs were everywhere, however, I just couldn’t see myself being controlled by anyone, after being out on my own for a year. Gang leaders controlled their people so I avoided the gang scene!!! I thank God every day for that.

Soon alcohol and partying turned into drugs and alcohol every day. I was taking speed to stay awake to work and go to school. Alcohol was my downer to sleep at night.

I remember the day that I realized God hadn’t left me. It has stayed so clear to me all these years. I slept in a water heater room, on a small cot that I had to fold my legs up to sleep on, but I didn’t complain. I wasn’t sleeping on the street, and they were very nice to let me stay there. They were doing drugs and partying pretty hard one night and I went to my cot, because I had a huge history/government test the next day that was going to make me either pass or fail the class! I wanted to graduate!!

I wanted to sleep so badly, and it just seemed like they were getting louder and louder. Now, you have to know, that I hadn’t prayed since I was 12 or 13 years old... I’m not even sure I knew how BUT, I opened my eyes and looked at the ceiling in that room.

“God, what am I doing here?” I questioned.

I felt God's response to me, “Joyce, I never left you, you left me.” I thought yeah Joyce, you’re crazy, and there is no way that was God. God would never answer you… I lived in the ghetto and was doing things God would never approve of! He wouldn’t speak to me. I rolled over and ignored what I had heard in my heart. Once again I was ignoring God. I just didn’t feel like I needed God or anyone else’s help; or so I thought!!

I started noticing little things that were odd. I know now that it was God being the father that I needed. He was watching and keeping me out of things that I shouldn’t have been involved with. STRANGE!! There were a couple things that I remember off hand. One was how every time I was headed to a party that I shouldn’t have been at, my car either broke down, ran out of gas, or end up with a flat tire. There were so many things like this…all of a sudden someone was watching out for me again?!! Weird, I thought. Another thing I remember was how I loved journalism class… I loved to write. Now I know why. It is freeing to pour your heart out!! 

I would be writing poems in class and the poems would be about things that I needed to hear, like wake up calls. I wasn’t sure where the words were coming from, but they were always good words.

In the meantime, I got into a fight with the people I lived with and ended up moving in with another friend and his family. I was still dating my high school sweetheart and we were going to be married as soon as we graduated in May. We thought July would work. One night I was at my friend’s house and my boyfriend had gone to the beach with some friends and apparently decided to try some drugs. When he came to the house that I was staying at, he was angry at me about everything. He was influenced by the drugs and beat me until I had bruises everywhere. When he stopped hitting me, I told him that he would never see me again. That was in May 1985, and to this day, I have never seen him again.

I didn’t know what to do. I called my mom in southern Indiana and told her I had no insurance and didn’t want to go to the hospital because they would arrest him and he was just out of it and would be fine tomorrow. She asked if I could drive down to Princeton, IN or if I had somewhere to get away from him. I jumped in my car with no money and nothing that I owned, not that I had much anyway. The little I had, was my treasure.

I planned to stay there just long enough to heal and then I was heading out. I didn’t want to live in a little country town. Then I figured out that God had other plans. Still He was right beside me, never leaving me!!!

I started being a hostess at my brother’s restaurant in Princeton. I met a lady that was so sad, that she would come in for coffee. I started talking to her and found out that her husband died of cancer just two month prior to meeting her. He had been only 42 years old. She came to have coffee to just get out of the house. We became friends and she told me that I needed to learn Evansville, because it was a larger city and I would probably like it better.

One day we were headed to Evansville, IN to go shopping and she was going to show me around. We had to stop by her house before we left town and there was a handsome guy sitting on her couch. At this point, I had no idea who he was, but he was cute. We got in the car and she told me it was her son. Well long story short, he is my husband now. We have been together for 33 years and married for 31 years. We have a beautiful daughter who is 28 years old and an amazing son who is 20 years old. Speaking of my daughter, that takes me to the final part of my testimony. She was an angel God sent to help change my life.

After she was born we met a couple that we started bar hopping with every weekend leaving her with his sister or my mom. We would pick her up and bring her home and tuck her in bed, like the good parents that we wanted to be!! One night when my daughter was 5yrs old, I was tucking her in bed and she said, “Mommy, don’t kiss me, you stink, I don’t like it, please!”

I lost it. I cried myself to sleep that night. I thought back on how I felt with my dad’s beer breath breathing on me when he was hurting me, or his beer breath screaming in my face. Thinking I HATE that smell, and here I was doing the same thing to my beautiful baby! Not hurting her physically, but mentally doing the same to her.

I laid in bed that night looking at the ceiling and said “God, what am I doing?” Yes, the exact words I used in that water heater room 17 years earlier. I didn’t feel God say anything that night.  I went off to sleep. The next morning, I turned the TV on, flipping for cartoons for the kids I was watching. I flipped past a woman who was talking, but I noticed at the bottom of the screen her name was Joyce also. So, I stopped to see what it was. 

In her message she was talking about her father hurting her and how she always felt like it was her fault. But, she talked about how God had healed her heart and she was able to forgive both of her parents. I wanted that, too!! I started crying, and fell to my knees at my couch. God heard my heart, I had no words, and then I heard in my heart again “Joyce, I never left you, you left me!” My heart was melting as it was receiving Gods words.

I knew then that I needed to repent and ask God to forgive me of my sins. That was in September of 1995. From that day on, we began to go to church and I started working in the church office. I became best friends with my pastor’s wife, who was my age. I learned a lot from her and started praying the prayer that Jabez prayed in 1 Chronicles 4:10. I wanted God to use me and widen my borders to help with His kingdom, yet never let me hurt people. Never in my wildest dreams, did I ever imagine that God would so richly bless this sinner with all the love of my husband, children and friends. I am so blessed.

Joyce (on the left) with her husband and family.

I could go on with my testimony, because God is still doing huge things in my life.  I opened my business because, at 3am one morning, I was awake, tossing and turning. Laying in my bed looking at the ceiling yet again and praying and I said “God, why have you led me to this job, I was working in a salon, that is robbing me of all the joy and peace that you have given me over the last 10 years.”

Gods answer was simple: “Open your own shop and widen your borders to spread my word.” So my salon has been open 10 years now. I get to talk to people every day, I encourage them when life is getting too hard, to find where their help comes from.

Without Christ I am nothing, but through Christ I can do all things!

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Also check out these other articles...
"A Perspective Change"
"All Out for Souls"

Some things you need to know...

Yeah, I know, there's always someone claiming you need to know one more thing. But here are six related things I really think you need to be aware of...

1. Holiness is required by God. 1 Peter 1:15-16 "You shall be holy, for I am holy."

2. Holiness is provided for in the atonement of Christ. Hebrews 13:12 "So Jesus also suffered outside the gate in order to sanctify the people through his own blood."

3. Holiness is wrought by the Holy Spirit (in other words: The Holy Spirit is the one who sanctifies.). Romans 15:16 "...sanctified by the Holy Spirit."

4. If holiness is not attainable in this life, then it cannot be required; of if it is required then God has required an impossibility.

5. If holiness is attainable then every Christian has a responsibility to seek and pray for it!

6. You too can experience the entire sanctification wrought about through the baptism of the Holy Spirit and sustained through a day by day walk in with the Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24 "Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. He who call you is faithful; he will surely do it."


For more on God's work of Sanctification see the following article by A.M. Hills on "What Sanctification is Worth."

*These are notes summarized from reading articles and sermons by J. B. Chapman an early Nazarene minister.

Why I still have a Sunday Night service.

I believe in more than a Sunday morning religion!  Maybe all my reasons don't apply to the situation you are in, but I wanted to share why I still have a Sunday night service.

1. Sunday is the Christian Sabbath. It's the day we celebrate the resurrection of our Savior! What an opportunity! What a blessing to join with our brothers and sisters to exalt the name of Jesus! Would you limit this great blessing to an hour on a Sunday morning? What if we recognized that one out of seven days is devoted to the holy endeavor of worship! No, the Bible does not give the imperative of two worship services on Sunday, but neither does it declare the Sabbath hour on Sunday morning.

2. The proclamation of the Gospel is desperately needed in the church today. To hear, understand, and live out the full counsel of God is necessary among Christians. In a time that is clouded with false teachings, liberalism, and a general ignorance of Biblical truth; the message of full salvation, the character of God, and the lifestyle of holiness are needed truths! We do not need less preaching of these things; we need more!

3. The Bible calls Christians to not forsake the formal assembling times of the Church. The New Testament church did not gather only once on Sunday. They gathered together every day of the week. Worship birthed fellowship and fellowship birthed worship! Many Christians see other Christians only once a week for about an hour and a half on Sunday morning. What if we began to take steps toward more worship and more fellowship? Some Christian leaders spend more time in board and committee meeting than they do in assembled times of worship!

4. What do you think we will be doing in Heaven for all eternity? Certainly, worship will not be the only thing we do, but it will be the primary thing that we do gathered around the throne. The centrality of the beauty and blessing of Heaven will be centered around the one who sits on the throne! Revelation 19:6 "Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out, 'Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns!'" (ESV) If we will be worshiping in Heaven, then maybe Sundays is a great time to get some practice in and spend some time in the 'closest thing to Heaven on Earth.'

5. What an innovative way to reach people for Jesus: a Sunday night service! Multiple services for some churches are a new idea and Sunday night services are old fashioned. What if we just reinvented the wheel? Maybe this is a great way for some people to make a service who wouldn't normally come? What about all those who work on Sunday mornings? What about the elderly who are unable get around early in the morning? If you have one service per week, there will be some who will be unable to ever attend.

6. Sunday night services make greater allowance for the family worshiping together. Sunday mornings and other services we tend to split up the family when they come through the doors: babies to the nursery, children to children's church, teenagers to youth group, fathers to men's group, women to the ladies' Bible study, etc. Is there ever a time when the family worships with the church community together? I know that it's hard to worship with a crying baby or fussing little ones, but maybe that's closer to Heaven than the alternative of splitting up the family.

7. Sunday night services tend to be less formal, less showy, and more intimate. There is definitely a different feel to a Sunday night service. It is hard to develop relationships on a Sunday morning only pattern. Sunday night's laid back feel fosters friendship among the saints! Early Churches of the Nazarene used Sunday night as their evangelistic service and Sunday morning as their discipleship service. Maybe these have been flipped over time, but both evangelism and discipleship are still necessary! Maybe Sunday night worship is what we ought to always 

8. It may not always be the case, but some of the people who walk with Christ in the deepest way are those who attend a worship service on Sunday night. It's not an equation to holiness (that's works righteousness), but it gives me pause due to the correlation. There is a hunger among the genuine Christian for more of Christ, more of His Word, and more fellowship with His people. In areas of the world where the church is persecuted they still risk punishment, imprisonment, or even death to gather with one another!

9. Sunday night worship has ceased to be an obligation for me; it is a privilege. The reluctance of having a Sunday night worship service is usually referred in two areas: (1) lack of desire among Christians and (2) lack of desire by Pastors and staff to put on another production. Sunday night services might just indicate value & priorities for some of our church members today. Is it really too much to ask of people to spend another hour in worship? Is the "Sunday morning production" and the weariness it causes an indication that we are doing something in a counter productive way?

10. How can you go wrong from attending or promoting a Sunday night service? When we finish our journey on earth and stand before God will anyone testify that they spent 'too much time' worshiping the Creator? People accept Christ, receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit, and grow in Christ as a result of time spent in a Sunday night worship service. It really happens. It will never hurt, only help to gather again on Sunday night to glorify Christ. After all, He promised if He was lifted up that He would draw all people to Himself! 

I'm asking different questions these days. It's no longer about how much church I have to attend to get to Heaven, but how much time can I spend in His presence? I am not dictating a secret recipe for church growth success or a quick 'fix all' to the problems your local congregation is having; I'm not really into "3 easy steps." I just think we do not spend enough time in corporate worship, singing praises to Jesus, listening to the Word of God preached, and responding to the Holy Spirit's call on us.

Maybe you disagree. That is okay. I have known churches that have a Sunday night worship service that are not very good churches. The only time they spend with Jesus is in the building. They only thing they do in response to God's grace is take up space on a pew or chair. They are greater 'hearers' of the Word, but not so good 'doers' of the Word. I know some churches that make their worship services a holy huddle, but never fulfill the Great Commission. I understand these things, and more, are a problem but that does not take away from the value of a great time of worship on a Sunday evening!

I will see you this Sunday night for worship! Why don't you come? You might just like it!